Not the same tears
I was sitting just here nine months ago, leaving London. I remember the unreadable novel I bought in that kiosk to read on the plane. I remember the weather, slate grey, and the gate change and the elegance of the woman sitting near me in the lounge. I remember, but more accurately feel in my chest, the hollow misery of flying away from my friend, Charlotte, who would suffer the misery and then death that she and we all knew was coming, soon.
I’ve seen death before. We die: there you are. Charlotte chose to live and die with daily purpose and connection. These past months devoted to doing my part to carry on some of that legacy on her behalf feels like much longer than months. I’m not the same woman at gate B32 as in July. These are not the same wet eyes and snuffles. And, I hope, not the same wary observers.
I leave London assured that Charlotte’s Helix is securely established with good minds and motivation to carry it forward. Charlotte’s family and friends, fellow advocates, scientists, and kind conference delegates now form a neat basket for what was, 9 months ago, something two women made up sitting outside a farm kitchen door.
I’m older and wiser. This experience has grounded me, humbled me, matured me. As I sat here and considered it I realized this response, of action and purpose, is what growing up does for you. It’s not about me and my loss or my role. It’s about thinking bigger, about acting instead of just reacting. I am perhaps finally an adult, complete with Big Girl Pants.
It’s courage, which Charlotte had and lent us, collectively. Thank you again, Charlotte.
More about the trip later... with pics!
Laura, you earned your Big Girl Pants long ago. Charlotte's amazing courage to act on her convictions continues to inspire many of us to speak out about eating disorders and make a difference in our own circles. You and Charlotte working together, to create and shepherd Charlotte's Helix, teach us that collectively we can accomplish even greater things.ReplyDelete
Thank you for all you have done and continue to do. Thanks you Charlotte for your humanity, courage, and compassion.
Alec, so terrific having a new and growing cohort of other compassionate and passionate families joining the chorus!!Delete
"Charlotte chose to live and die with daily purpose and connection." That is a life well-lived indeed; I am sorry it was too short. Wonderful to hear that the Helix will carry on in her name--it's such an important project.ReplyDelete
You are so right, Jenn. A life well-lived is the best we can do, long or short!Delete