Why I can't do the Maudsley approach
- My kid is too strong-willed.
- I don't want my child to hate me.
- I tried making her eat before and it didn't work.
- He has to want to change.
- Her therapist doesn't believe in it.
- His illness isn't that bad.
- Her illness is far too serious for that.
- No one told me about it.
I've heard it all.
- Your child's ILLNESS is strong-willed. The stronger your child was, the more the ED has to use against your child, the stronger YOU need to be to protect the patient.
- I see lots of former patients who hate their parents, but they aren't the ones who got successful Maudsley therapy.
- It isn't 'making them eat,' it is a treatment approach that helps you support your child in ending malnourishment and ED behaviors.
- No one wants swimming lessons when they're drowning. Insight and motivation are results of successful treatment, not a prerequisite.
- FBT/Maudsley is not the Tooth Fairy. It is a well-established model of care with more research to support it than any other approach. Not believing in it says more about the clinician than the method. Most therapists do not receive training in the causes and evidence-based treatment of eating disorders. Your child deserves one who has.
- Pregnancies, government programs, and infections start small, too. Early intervention offers the best chance of full recovery.
- Maudsley therapy isn't a self-help program. It is done with a trained treatment team and under medical supervision with full knowledge of the medical and psychological seriousness of the illness.
- It isn't your fault that no one told you, but now that you know you can act. Find evidence-based care, and put everything else - including regret - aside. When your child is well, join the activists out here trying to improve things for all families faced with an eating disorder.